Being YOU in a relationship? 
Does anyone else find this a balancing act sometimes? Well, I certainly do. I’ve been reading so many spiritual books lately as I’m trying to more clearly define who I am and what I believe. So many of these books talk about following your own path, and listening to your inner voice. Well, sometimes, other people’s voices are a little louder than my inner voice. I’ve been trying to put a microphone to that little guy inside me and I’m starting to hear him more. One book that I’ve been reading lately that has given me a lot of clarity is called “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie. She has a tool she’s taught many people called “The Work” which helps a person investigate their thoughts about a subject that bother/infuriates/sadens a person. It’s pretty remarkable. If you get a chance I would strongly suggest you check out her book and her amazing website called: THE WORK. I actually did the work on myself on my other blog Spiritual Travel Man. If you’d like to see what I worked on visit my other blog.
I’m learning that I do not need any outside source for my own happiness and my own sense of accomplishment. No one in the world is going to know what’s best for me-PERIOD. I guess I never thought I was enough. Well, I am. My life has been an interesting journey so far, and now that I’ve discovered this monumental idea, I plan on listening to myself a lot more often.
I think often times, I feel like a victim in my relationship. I project outwards all of the ideas and feelings that I should be applying to myself. Speak honestly and clear about what you want, and always find the love within yourself to forgive and accept your partner. Many times we blame the other person for not bringing you happiness. That’s not their job. That’s YOURS! After you read “Loving What Is” all of what I’m saying makes more sense. All life is a journey, so be present where you are right now because if you aren’t, you won’t know where you want to go.
